Virtual relationship and my thoughts
A fortnight ago, it just happened one day that I started talking to one of my former classmates through FB who is now residing in the US for many years. It was almost a week that we chatted almost every evening. Just so you know, the last time I met him was many years ago. We are friends but we are not very close though. I always want to know more about different things that happen in the US so I guess curiosity kept the conversations going. Before this and before I realized, I've actually been engaged in a relationship whereby I did not know the person beforehand, which later transformed into a real-life face-to-face relationship. On realization of these 2 experiences I've learnt that there are vast differences between a virtual relationship and a real-life one. Hence, I started to ponder upon the value of being engaged in a virtual relationship.
A virtual relationship basically means that you communicate with the other party without seeing the person face-to-face. It does not limit to communicating on the phone, webcam, messengers, whatsapp, SMS etc. So what do I think about keeping a virtual relationship?
I've always wondered about the good points of keeping a virtual relationship. I did not realize till I happened to stumble on an article. Apparently, talking to a person online, without seeing the person's face can help to have a more focused discussion on the subject. It simply means that because we do not judge the person by appearance, we usually do not get distracted as readily as in a F2F talk, and also, what is being talked about would be more in-depth. Of course, this only applies if the communication is genuinely based on sharing experiences. Talking about being committed in a virtual relationship, I do not suggest to involve too much of personal emotions and feelings. This is because it would make things complicated. Many a times feelings perceived by ourselves in the conversation are often one-sided and inaccurate. It might not reflect the real situation. However, it is totally fine to be happy or satisfied over the matters being discussed.
Here comes another question to ponder on. How far can a virtual relationship go? Can it develop into a F2F relationship? Should I keep it virtual only? I seriously do not know. However, personally, I'd rather keep it virtual. Unless the relationship is purely genuine and does not involve much personal feelings. However, in my experience, I am always excited and happy when I talk to a person online. This is because I can reveal my feelings in words and a lot of times, I can touch on issues that are slightly more personal while talking online rather than F2F. Maybe talking without seeing the person avoids any possible embarrassment. Besides, we perceive our feelings on our own. Although most of the time it does not reflect the real situation but it still allows a space for imagination. We tend to imagine and exaggerate the feelings that we perceive. Hence, we feel happier or sadder while talking without F2F.
I do not mind keeping a virtual relationship. Some people think that this is irrational and not realistic. Is that so? If that's the case, half of our lifetime would be irrational too because it's a fact that half of the time we are engaged in virtual experiences: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, even online shopping.
Bottom line, I really would like to keep a good and genuine relationship but there are things to bear in mind. Any relationship requires commitment. This could be challenging as time management becomes an important issue because we might be spending too much time in a day talking online and neglecting the priorities of our work. Another important thing to note is that we must manage our feelings well. Do not get too obsessed with how we feel because all feelings are merely our own perception. Keep it genuine.
A virtual relationship basically means that you communicate with the other party without seeing the person face-to-face. It does not limit to communicating on the phone, webcam, messengers, whatsapp, SMS etc. So what do I think about keeping a virtual relationship?
I've always wondered about the good points of keeping a virtual relationship. I did not realize till I happened to stumble on an article. Apparently, talking to a person online, without seeing the person's face can help to have a more focused discussion on the subject. It simply means that because we do not judge the person by appearance, we usually do not get distracted as readily as in a F2F talk, and also, what is being talked about would be more in-depth. Of course, this only applies if the communication is genuinely based on sharing experiences. Talking about being committed in a virtual relationship, I do not suggest to involve too much of personal emotions and feelings. This is because it would make things complicated. Many a times feelings perceived by ourselves in the conversation are often one-sided and inaccurate. It might not reflect the real situation. However, it is totally fine to be happy or satisfied over the matters being discussed.
Here comes another question to ponder on. How far can a virtual relationship go? Can it develop into a F2F relationship? Should I keep it virtual only? I seriously do not know. However, personally, I'd rather keep it virtual. Unless the relationship is purely genuine and does not involve much personal feelings. However, in my experience, I am always excited and happy when I talk to a person online. This is because I can reveal my feelings in words and a lot of times, I can touch on issues that are slightly more personal while talking online rather than F2F. Maybe talking without seeing the person avoids any possible embarrassment. Besides, we perceive our feelings on our own. Although most of the time it does not reflect the real situation but it still allows a space for imagination. We tend to imagine and exaggerate the feelings that we perceive. Hence, we feel happier or sadder while talking without F2F.
I do not mind keeping a virtual relationship. Some people think that this is irrational and not realistic. Is that so? If that's the case, half of our lifetime would be irrational too because it's a fact that half of the time we are engaged in virtual experiences: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, even online shopping.
Bottom line, I really would like to keep a good and genuine relationship but there are things to bear in mind. Any relationship requires commitment. This could be challenging as time management becomes an important issue because we might be spending too much time in a day talking online and neglecting the priorities of our work. Another important thing to note is that we must manage our feelings well. Do not get too obsessed with how we feel because all feelings are merely our own perception. Keep it genuine.
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